What If I'm Not Doing This Right?
What If I'm Not Doing This Right?
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Self-Doubt Could Actually Mean You Are Doing It Right.
Self-Doubt Could Actually Mean You Are Doing It Right.
Category: Personal Growth & DevelopmentBy Zachary Waters05/07/25
Some nights, when the house finally goes quiet—when no one needs snacks, answers, or a ride to practice—you find yourself sitting in the dark, staring at the ceiling, asking the question:
“Am I failing?”
Not out loud. Not in front of anyone. Just a whisper, buried under all the things you didn’t get done today. You recall all the ways you showed up messy, exhausted—maybe even angry.
You wonder if you’re a good enough parent. A good enough partner. A good enough employee. A good enough homeowner. A good enough person.
Because no matter how hard you try, things still seem to fall apart sometimes.
The house is still loud. The kids still push boundaries. There are still dishes in the sink. You still lose your temper. And the world still feels like it’s on fire.
You think about the things you didn’t say—or the things you wish you hadn’t. The times you raised your voice, shut down, or didn’t have the energy to be the person you wanted to be. You wonder if your kids see how hard you’re trying, or if they only remember the moments you got it wrong.
You start to doubt your choices. You wonder if the hard things in your life are your fault.
You think, “Maybe I should be better at this by now. Maybe I’m the problem.”
Because isn’t that what we were taught to believe? That if we just worked harder, stayed calmer, showed up better, everything would finally click?
You’re doubting yourself.
"You are carrying so much more than anyone sees. "
"You are carrying so much more than anyone sees. "
But hear this instead: Self-doubt doesn’t mean you’re failing. It actually means you care.
It means you are aware and that you are trying. You are carrying so much more than anyone sees.
We don’t talk enough about how lonely it is to care this deeply…to show up every day for people you love while silently questioning whether your effort is enough. To be the strong one, when you’re not even sure what strength looks like anymore. Here is the truth that almost no one says out loud:
Everyone is guessing (even when they look like they know what they are doing). Everyone is tired. Everyone is holding something inside that they are afraid to share. The parents who seem patient and put-together? They cry, sometimes hysterically in the shower. They Google “how to not mess up your kid.” They whisper “I can’t do this anymore” and then do it anyway.
And just because your choices do not seem to be working yet, it does not mean they are not right. It does not mean your efforts don’t matter. It does not mean your love is not reaching the people it’s meant for.
Sometimes, like a plant or a tree, it takes a long time for good seeds to grow, especially in hard soil. Especially when you’re healing your own things that no one before you knew how to fix and instead handed it to you.
So, if you are sitting there wondering if you are doing it wrong…just now that this moment, this quiet, shaky, vulnerable moment, might be the exact evidence that you are doing something right.
You are still here and have every right to be. You are still trying. You are still loving, even when it’s hard. That counts for more than you know.
You are not a failure at life.
You’re just in it.
And you are not alone.
Sometimes the hardest thing to do is ask for help—especially when you’ve been holding everything together for so long. But you don’t have to do it all on your own.
Whether you're overwhelmed, unsure, or just need someone to listen, we’re here. No judgment. No pressure. Just people who care, ready to meet you where you are. Reach out. You’re not alone.
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