As parents, we hope for our kids to be resilient, capable, and confident. Yet in today's age, there are an ever increasing amount of challenges to be faced. It might be a problem at school, issues with classmates, or it might be problems that are natural to being an adolescent. We need to empower our kids so that they become equipped with the skills necessary for them to enjoy both the peaks and the troughs of life.

In raising my own children and working with families, I have found these to be some of the most powerful strategies you can use to raise resilient children who are ready to face whatever life has in store for them: 

• Model Resilience Yourself

Kids learn from what they see us do. If they see us cope with stress, disappointment, and failure with resilience, they're more likely to model that behavior and develop those skills. Show them that setbacks are only temporary and that with patience and persistence, we can find the next right step and bounce back stronger.

• Encourage Problem-Solving

Let your child figure out solutions when appropriate.  You might be tempted to try and solve problems for them, but the struggle of solving problems is very important. Encourage them to figure things out on their own. Ask open-ended questions like, "What do you think would be best?" or "What else might you try?" This makes them feel confident in their ability to handle problems.

• Encourage Emotional Expression

Resilient children are not afraid to discuss their emotions. Consistently remind your children that it is okay to be sad, frustrated, or upset. Assist them in recognizing their emotions and provide them with a secure and safe place to discuss what they are going through. Emotional sensitivity is a key element of resilience.

Remember, resilience isn’t about being invincible. It’s about being able to adapt, learn, and grow through life’s challenges without losing yourself. By fostering these qualities in your kids, you’re helping them build a foundation for a future filled with confidence, strength, and the ability to face whatever comes their way.